Build it Beautiful Podcast

The Pillar of Confidence

The Essence of Connection

Connection is the cornerstone of leadership. It’s about building genuine relationships, fostering empathy, and inspiring others. When we connect with people on a deeper level, we create a sense of belonging, trust, and shared purpose.

the goal: weave a rich tapestry of relationships

Why Connection Matters

  • Stronger Teams: Connection fosters collaboration, teamwork, and a positive work environment.
  • Increased Productivity: Engaged and connected teams are more productive and innovative.
  • Improved Morale: Strong relationships boost morale and job satisfaction.
  • Enhanced Reputation: A reputation for strong relationships can open doors to new opportunities.

Tips for Building Strong Connections:

  • Active Listening: Give your full attention to others and truly listen to what they have to say.
  • Empathy: Put yourself in other people’s shoes and understand their perspective.
  • Authenticity: Be genuine and authentic in your interactions.
  • Vulnerability: Share your own experiences and challenges to build trust.
  • Positive Reinforcement: Recognize and appreciate the contributions of others.

Conclusion

Humans are social creatures. We crave connection like plants crave sunlight. It is the invisible thread that binds us to others, fostering a sense of belonging, purpose, and joy. It is the foundation of strong relationships, vibrant communities, and a flourishing society. Connection is essential. Connection isn’t just about being in the same space as others; it’s about forming genuine bonds, building trust, and sharing a sense of shared understanding. It’s about feeling seen, heard, and valued for who you truly are.

By prioritizing connection, you can create a more positive and fulfilling work environment, build stronger relationships, and achieve greater success. Remember, the power of connection is a powerful tool for leaders.

NOTES

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Pillar of Confidence

  • Ultimately, Confidence is the belief in you that you can figure anything out.
  • Confidence isn’t the absence of fear. It’s the ability to navigate despite it. It’s the internal fire that fuels your ambition, the quiet voice that whispers “you can do this,” and the unwavering belief in your own abilities. It isn’t about bragging or boasting. It’s about knowing your worth, embracing your strengths, and accepting your weaknesses. It’s the courage to take risks, to learn from mistakes, and to pick yourself up after every fall.
  • Confidence isn’t a fixed state; it’s a journey. It’s a muscle that needs to be exercised, a flame that needs to be nurtured. It’s built through action, through small wins and giant leaps, through facing your fears and emerging stronger.

Activities

  • The Batman Effect
  • Red Marks

NOTES

Check out our Book of Beautiful Bowls Here. Fourteen amazing bowls to feed your family and your soul. Filled with cuisines from around the world, you won’t be lacking in any more menus for your week.

Pillar of clarity

In this episode of Build It Beautiful, we dive deep into the power of clarity. Learn how to define your vision, set clear goals, and communicate effectively to inspire and motivate your team. Discover practical strategies to eliminate confusion, boost productivity, and achieve remarkable results. Whether you’re a seasoned leader or just starting your journey, this episode will provide you with the tools and insights you need to lead with clarity and confidence.

  • When we have clarity, we know what we want, why we want it, and how to achieve it. We are able to make informed decisions and take action with purpose.
  • Clarity acts as a guiding light, illuminating the path towards joyful living. It empowers us to make informed choices, prioritize our actions, and navigate life with purpose. 
  • Visual (line from two points) — Realistic Line (crazy between two points)

Activities

  • Get Outside the Box (5 Mins)
    • Write down as many goals as possible
    • Circle only three you’d like to focus on
  • Future Backtrack
    • Put yourself in the future when you have accomplished this goal
    • Ask yourself what you did to reach this goal
    • Write down all the things you did
    • Keep asking yourself until you get to the simple daily things you did to reach the goal
    • This will create a timeline and course for you to follow
  • The Gap and the Gain – Measure the Gains – Fence Posts

EVENTS

Women’s Wellness Summit – Saturday, November 16, 2024

https://www.womenswellnesssummit.co

The mission of the Women’s Wellness Summit is to amplify women’s voices, impact, and influence through the 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, and occupational. 

​This Summit brings women, of all seasons of life, together to explore new outlets for their wellness journey. 

Use code: HAND10 for a discount on tickets

Foundation of belifs and Values

To be a great leader, you need to make sure that you have a strong foundation. Your foundation is built with your beliefs and values.

Beliefs and values are fundamental principles that shape our worldview and guide our actions. Beliefs are convictions or opinions held to be true, while values are deeply held principles that inform our choices and behaviors. They can be personal, cultural, religious, or philosophical.

Beliefs and values are closely intertwined. Our beliefs often influence our values, and our values can shape our beliefs. For example, a belief in equality may lead to a value of fairness, while a value of honesty may be rooted in the belief that truthfulness is important.

Beliefs and values can have a profound impact on our lives. They can influence our relationships, our careers, and our overall well-being. Understanding our own beliefs and values can help us make more informed decisions and live more authentically.

So the question becomes:

Who do you want to be? 

ActivitY TO DEFINE YOUR VALUES AND BELIEFS

  • Write your Eulogy
    • A eulogy is a speech or piece of writing that praises a deceased person. It typically reflects on the person’s life, achievements, and impact on others. Eulogies are often delivered at funerals or memorial services to honor the memory of the deceased and provide comfort to their loved ones.
    • You will write yours as if you have died and you are giving a sketch about your life as defined above.
  • Now ask yourself if you are taking action to become that person.
    • Take another minute to write how you feel about that.
      • Are there things you need to stop doing, start doing, or continue doing?

EVENTS

Women’s Wellness Summit – Saturday, November 16, 2024

https://www.womenswellnesssummit.co

The mission of the Women’s Wellness Summit is to amplify women’s voices, impact, and influence through the 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, and occupational. 

​This Summit brings women, of all seasons of life, together to explore new outlets for their wellness journey. 

Use code: HAND10 for a discount on tickets

Build it Beautiful Basics

Build It Beautiful is a comprehensive leadership development program designed to equip individuals with the essential skills and mindset to become effective and inspiring leaders. Through engaging workshops, interactive activities, and personalized coaching, participants will develop their confidence, clarity of purpose, and ability to build strong relationships.

The podcast today is going to do a basic introduction to our structure and the visual that will propel you to be a great and effective leader.

EVENTS

Women’s Wellness Summit – Saturday, November 16, 2024

https://www.womenswellnesssummit.co

The mission of the Women’s Wellness Summit is to amplify women’s voices, impact, and influence through the 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, and occupational. 

​This Summit brings women, of all seasons of life, together to explore new outlets for their wellness journey. 

Massive Action

In this episode of Build It Beautiful, we dive deep into the world of taking massive action. Discover the strategies, mindset shifts, and practical tips needed to overcome fear, break down barriers, and achieve your wildest goals. We’ll explore the power of accountability, the importance of setting clear goals, and some practical examples of things we are working on right now. Get ready to the invitation to jump over into massive action this week and meet your full potential as we explore the transformative power of massive action.

EVENTS

Women’s Wellness Summit – Saturday, November 16, 2024

https://www.womenswellnesssummit.co

The mission of the Women’s Wellness Summit is to amplify women’s voices, impact, and influence through the 8 dimensions of wellness: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, and occupational. 

​This Summit brings women, of all seasons of life, together to explore new outlets for their wellness journey. 

PMDD Real Talk – Is Surgery an Option for PMDD?

A PreMenstrual Disorder Perspective Podcast to help women know that health is personal and possible. Like, share, and subscribe for more. @adagiofit on IG

***Note: these thoughts are in no way to replace your physician. If you have questions, please consult your doctor and professionals for direction before you make any changes in your health. I am not a doctor, just a coach. Also, these podcast may contain information that is sensitive in nature and might be triggering. Please listen with caution. Thank you.***

Sign up for a FREE consult at www.adagiofit.com

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If you’ve ever wondered about having surgery to “cure” PMDD, this is the podcast for you. I educate about different surgery procedures and how they differ, but also explain why I have chosen PMDD. Yes, you heard that right. I choose PMDD.

We’re going to be talking about the difference between a hysterectomy, a complete hysterectomy, and an oophorectomy. These are all surgical procedures that involve the uterus, but they have different implications for women’s health.

What is a hysterectomy?

A hysterectomy is a surgery to remove the uterus. The uterus is the organ that holds a fetus during pregnancy. It’s also the source of menstrual bleeding. There are different types of hysterectomies, depending on how much of the uterus is removed.

  • Total hysterectomy: This is the most common type of hysterectomy. It involves removing the entire uterus, including the cervix.
  • Subtotal hysterectomy: This type of hysterectomy removes the body of the uterus, but the cervix is left in place.
  • Radical hysterectomy: This type of hysterectomy is used to treat cancer of the cervix or uterus. It removes the uterus, cervix, fallopian tubes, and ovaries.

What is a complete hysterectomy?

A complete hysterectomy is a hysterectomy that also includes the removal of the ovaries. This is sometimes called a bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy (BSO). The ovaries are the female reproductive organs that produce eggs and hormones.

What is an oophorectomy?

An oophorectomy is the removal of one or both ovaries. This surgery can be done as a standalone procedure, or it can be done at the same time as a hysterectomy.

Why might I need a hysterectomy?

There are many reasons why a woman might need a hysterectomy. Some of the most common reasons include:

  • Heavy menstrual bleeding: This is a common problem that can affect women of all ages. A hysterectomy can be a treatment option for women who have heavy menstrual bleeding that doesn’t respond to other treatments.
  • Endometriosis: This is a condition in which tissue that normally lines the uterus grows outside the uterus. This can cause pain, heavy bleeding, and infertility. A hysterectomy can be a treatment option for women with endometriosis who have severe symptoms.
  • Uterine fibroids: These are noncancerous growths that can develop in the uterus. Fibroids can cause heavy bleeding, pain, and pressure. A hysterectomy can be a treatment option for women with fibroids who have severe symptoms.
  • Cancer of the uterus or cervix: A hysterectomy is sometimes used to treat cancer of the uterus or cervix.

What are the risks of a hysterectomy?

Any surgery carries some risks, and a hysterectomy is no exception. Some of the potential risks of a hysterectomy include:

  • Infection: This is a risk with any surgery.
  • Bleeding: This is also a risk with any surgery.
  • Damage to other organs: This is a rare risk, but it can happen.
  • Early menopause: If the ovaries are removed, the woman will go into menopause. This can cause symptoms such as hot flashes, night sweats, and vaginal dryness.

What are the benefits of a hysterectomy?

A hysterectomy can be a beneficial treatment for women with certain medical conditions. For example, a hysterectomy can relieve heavy menstrual bleeding, pain, and pressure caused by uterine fibroids. It can also be used to treat cancer of the uterus or cervix.

What are the alternatives to a hysterectomy?

There are some alternatives to a hysterectomy. For example, women with heavy menstrual bleeding may be able to take medication or have endometrial ablation, a procedure that destroys the lining of the uterus. Women with uterine fibroids may be able to have them removed through surgery, or they may be able to have them treated with medication.

A hysterectomy is a major surgery, so it’s important to talk to your doctor about the risks and benefits before making a decision. There are also some alternatives to a hysterectomy that may be a good option for some women.

Coaching Corner – Change Talk vs Sustain Talk

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Change talk and sustain talk are two important concepts in motivational interviewing. Change talk refers to statements that reveal motivation for or consideration of change, while sustain talk refers to statements that express a desire to stay the same.

Here are some examples of change talk:

  • “I want to lose weight.”
  • “I’m worried about my health.”
  • “I’ve been thinking about quitting smoking.”
  • “I’m ready to make a change.”

Here are some examples of sustain talk:

  • “I don’t think I can change.”
  • “I’m not sure if I’m ready to change.”
  • “I’m afraid of what will happen if I change.”
  • “I’m comfortable with the way things are.”

It’s important to recognize both change talk and sustain talk when working with clients who are considering making a change. By identifying and reinforcing change talk, you can help clients move towards making a positive change.

Here are some tips for identifying change talk:

  • Listen for statements that express a desire for change, reasons for change, or commitment to change.
  • Pay attention to the client’s body language and tone of voice.
  • Ask open-ended questions that encourage the client to talk about change.

Here are some tips for reinforcing change talk:

  • Reflect back the client’s change talk.
  • Ask the client to elaborate on their change talk.
  • Summarize the client’s change talk.
  • Offer support and encouragement.

cravings, temptations, + appetite challenges

A PreMenstrual Disorder Perspective Podcast to help women know that health is personal and possible. Like, share, and subscribe for more. @adagiofit on IG

***Note: these thoughts are in no way to replace your physician. If you have questions, please consult your doctor and professionals for direction before you make any changes in your health. I am not a doctor, just a coach. Also, these podcast may contain information that is sensitive in nature and might be triggering. Please listen with caution. Thank you.***

Sign up for a FREE consult at www.adagiofit.com

***LISTEN TO THE PODCAST IN A WEB BROWSER AT ADAIGOFIT.COM***

Cravings, temptation, and an appetite that just won’t seem to go away. These are some of the biggest struggles people have when going through premenstrual disorders.

Broadly speaking, people know which foods are fairly healthy, and which aren’t so healthy. And, when dieting, these people want to lose weight; that’s the reason they’re dieting, after all.

So, they know what they want to achieve, and roughly know which foods they should be eating. So why are long term success rates so low?

It’s because cravings, temptation, and your appetite eventually wear you down. Once the initial motivation you had begins to wane, it becomes harder to resist these. Your brain doesn’t want you to lose weight.

In an evolutionary sense, food was scarce. So, a drive to eat meant greater chances of survival and therefore passing on your genes. The difference now is that food is not scarce. In fact, it’s abundant. We are surrounded by high-calorie, high-reward food, but we still have a brain geared towards survival in a very different environment. This mismatch is a key reason why dieting is so hard.

Remove temptation from your environment

Clear out tempting foods, don’t keep them in the house. If it’s out of sight, it’s out of mind. If this isn’t feasible because you live with others and they won’t accept you throwing out the junk, then hide tempting foods instead. Keep them in separate cupboards, away from the ones you usually use. Keep them in opaque containers so you can’t see them. It’s amazing how small changes like this can have a big impact on our behavior.

You want to make it harder to eat unhealthy foods. Our brain wants to minimize effort, so increase the effort it takes to make poor choices. For example, having to go to the shops to buy a chocolate bar is a lot more effort than just picking it out of the snack drawer.

Willpower is like a muscle, you can only use it a certain amount of times before it’s weakened. So, don’t rely on willpower. Instead, alter your environment so you don’t need to use willpower every time you enter the kitchen.

Create an environment that supports your goals, not one that sabotages them.

2. Separate eating from other activities

Eat at the dinner table. Don’t eat while watching the TV, or while scrolling through your phone. You want to minimize distractions that take you away from the experience of eating.

Eat slowly. Separating eating from other activities will naturally allow you to slow down, focus on your food, and be more mindful when eating. You will feel more full and satisfied after eating in this way.

If you stop eating while watching the TV, for example, your brain stops associating food with these activities. If you’re used to watching TV in the evening with a few biscuits, you’ll find you start to think about biscuits when you sit down in front of the TV. Your brain has learned that evening TV = biscuit time and will urge you, through cravings, to continue this habit.

If you separate these activities, your brain stops associating them. If you have a rule that you don’t eat in front of the TV, the effort required to get a snack and sit at the table without your phone or TV means you’re unlikely to do it unless you’re truly hungry. 

Again, it comes down to increasing the effort required to make poor dietary choices.

3. Stop snacking

Controversial, right? You don’t have to stop it completely, but I would recommend focusing on full meals first and foremost.

Snacking throughout the day, without having full meals, can lead to what I call the Not-Quite Cycle™. This is when you spend your whole day being not-quite hungry between meals, and not-quite satisfied after meals. This sucks.

Snack foods are typically easy to over eat and don’t fill you up. Think crisps, sweets, chocolate and other processed, packaged snack foods. You’d be better off saving these calories for a filling, nutritious meal.

If you do snack, choose things like fruit and plain yoghurt. These are minimally-processed, highly satiating, and therefore hard to overeat.

4. Limit hyper-palatable foods

Hyper-palatable just means tasty and easy to overeat. A combination of fat/salt/sugar is often what makes foods hyper-palatable. These types of food rarely occur naturally, and so are often highly-processed and calorie-dense.

Your brain get familiar with these tastes and that’s how cravings develop. Even protein bars, fiber one bars, and other ‘low calorie’ or ‘healthy’ snacks would still fall into this category. That’s not at all to say you can’t include them in your diet. But, if you’re someone who struggles with your appetite and cravings, it may be wise to forego them.

5. Prioritize high satiety, minimally-processed whole foods

These are foods like fruits, vegetables, lean meats, potatoes, fish, eggs, wholegrains, beans and legumes, oats, and plain yoghurt.

These foods are hard to overeat. They are often less-calorie dense, higher protein, and higher fiber, meaning they are highly satiating and therefore, you’re unlikely to over-consume them.

6. Don’t allow hunger to become extreme

Intermittent fasting is a useful tool but it’s not magic, and it’s not for everyone. You need to find what works for you. If you can happily skip breakfast and have lunch as your first meal, go for it. But, if trying to fast leads you to overeat later in the day, then don’t do it! I can’t believe I have to say this, but I do. Again, it’s not magic, it’s just one method. – if it doesn’t work for you, try a different method.

Spreading your meals evenly throughout the day can help to keep you hunger levels under control, and prevent you falling into the Not-Quite Cycle™, or restricting to the point where you end up overeating.

7. Consult your future self

This is a psychological technique called episodic future-thinking. It involves removing yourself from the present moment, and thinking about how this decision is going to affect you in the future. 

Remember your goals, the reasons why you’re dieting, and the hard work you’ve put in so far. Ask yourself this question: “would my future self thank me for the decision I’m about to make?”

If you’re following the 6 previous strategies, then your cravings will be more like an occasional whisper, rather than a persistent chatter. Consulting your future self can allow you to look at the big picture, and make the right decision for you.

Here’s a quick recap of the eight strategies to manage your appetite:

Remove temptation from your environment

Separate eating from other activities

Stop snacking

Limit hyper-palatable foods

Priorities minimally-processed whole foods

Don’t allow hunger to become too extreme

Consult your future self

Manage your stress and sleep

Following this advice could be the difference between reaching your goals or not. Read it, understand it, implement it. Words mean nothing if you don’t put it into action. So, give yourself a checklist of action points to take away from this article, and it could change your life for the better.

Coaching Corner – Behavior Change

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Changing behaviors is difficult. Many barriers to change exist in both physical and mental paths. All individuals have their own composition of fear, education, environment, social settings, and time constraints that create different outcomes and building blocks for the same problems.

  • Precontemplation – At this stage, an individual is not yet aware or is unwilling to accept that a change is needed. They are likely hanging on to their current behaviors and have not yet found intrinsic motivation to change but may have pressure from other sources to make change.
  • Contemplation – The client has started to become aware that a change is needed, but they are struggling with the pros and cons of doing so, the amount of effort that may be required of them, or what they may have to sacrifice to see change.
  • Preparation – This is the stage where serious consideration starts to take place and even a desire to begin taking steps to make change. At this point, they are starting to think about what they can do to bring about change but may still be struggling with knowing where to begin. The desire for change is there.
  • Action – Here they start taking physical action, moving beyond the stages of mental effort to actually taking steps to implement the changes that, until this point, have only been considerations. For many, this will be the most difficult stage as it is the “first step,” so to speak, and where they will have to put forth the greatest commitment to keep momentum.
  • Maintenance – At this point, the client has been consistent with their new behaviors for at least 6 months (Rubak et al., 2005) and it is becoming an integrated part of their lifestyle. Getting here does not mean they will stay here, though, and, if they have not been focused on a sustainable approach, they are still at risk of relapsing to old behaviors.